Independent…

Dave and I are seldom together in public. It is how we roll. From the minute we were married over 25 years ago, we figured out how to be together without literally being with each other. He was a coach early in his career.  I don’t like to watch sports unless my kids are participating. I should have gone to Dave’s games to support him, but someone had to be home with the dog. We are very devoted to our fur babies.  So over the years, we would divide and conquer. If Molly had a softball tournament,  I would go, and Dave would stay home with Jake and the girls (the 3 dogs). Dave is 100% committed to his job, and I support that. In fact that was one of the reasons I retired from teaching. I needed to be home for the kids. I go shopping by myself or with girlfriends. I flew my daughter to Spokane to visit Gonzaga. I flew to Dallas to help my brother move. I drive back and forth to Indy by myself, and Dave and I take turns. It is not a reflection on our relationship; we do what we need to do, and I’m pretty independent. The kids come first. We can’t waste time being selfish or petty. We still communicate (thank goodness for cell phones) and can talk at any given moment. If I call once and immediately call back, Dave knows it’s important.  So my blogs are mainly written from my point of view. I was there by myself, drove back and forth by myself, and that is ok. We’ve done what we felt needed to be done. One of us would be home every night for Molly and the dogs. My dad and my sister and her family  have been there to fill in the gaps. Molly has had a rough couple of years, but she has thrived. She too is becoming an independent young woman. This will serve her well…

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