It is hard not to get caught up in the negative. I will be the first to admit that it wouldn’t take much to get me riled up about something. A friend posted something about being upset about being disappointed for someone not getting rewarded for hard work. Someone else was rewarded because of personal connections. Because she wasn’t specific, I assumed in my head all kinds of possible things that might have happened. I started reading the comments trying to look for clues as to whom was wronged. There was a lot of hometown bashing. “If you don’t have the right name in this town,” “can’t wait to leave this town,” “this town is horrible,”….that struck a nerve….I considered the people who made the comments. Negativity is what I would have expected so I should have moved on. I sent the original poster a personal message because she usually is not negative. I decided to comment. My sole purpose was to clarify that it isn’t just a problem in our hometown. Every town for thousands of years could have examples of someone achieving personal gain from someone they know helping them. Hence the phrase it’s not what you know, it’s who you know. That’s life. It’s a fact of life. Take advantage of it. Many people supported and agreed with my sentiments. A couple of them personally attacked me. I blocked them. I don’t have time for people who are narrow minded, but won’t consider the other side of the story. There is always another side. For every person who is thrilled to get that job or spot, there will be 5 who are crushed. We as a species cannot let those disappointments crush us. Many of us realize that. We move on. We leave the negative people behind us. Happiness and positivity is a choice. One of them expressed she could not wait to move out of this town. Go ahead -get a fresh start. Maybe it’s just what you need. Hopefully it is life-changing and you thrive. Or in time, you may find you’re just as negative and life is just as unfair no matter where you go. Chances are you won’t recognize it…you’ll just keep pointing fingers at everyone else responsible for your misery…

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